A guided path to rebuild your identity after a difficult relationship and create a life that feels authentically your own

IT’S TIME

TO COME HOME

TO YOU

Does this sound painfully familiar?

  • You look in the mirror and think, "I don't even know who I am anymore." The person you were seems to have vanished in the relationship.

  • You're constantly second-guessing yourself, wondering "How did I let this happen?" and you just don't trust your own judgment anymore.

  • Every day feels like you're just surviving, not living. You feel stuck, terrified of starting over, and can't see a clear path forward.

  • A part of you feels like you'll never be enough, that you're somehow unworthy of love, and you're terrified of being deeply hurt again.

Now, imagine a different reality...

  • You wake up with a feeling of`calm and wholeness, feeling `confident in who you are and what you want.

  • You trust your own judgment again, making decisions with a quiet confidence and moving forward without looking over your shoulder for permission.

  • You can set a clear boundary without feeling a wave of guilt, knowing you are worthy of protecting your energy.

  • You finally silence the inner critic that sounds suspiciously like everyone who ever put you down, and learn to speak to yourself with kindness and respect.

  • And most importantly: You can freely be, act, speak, and think without that constant, exhausting second thought.

And this is how it changes everything, day to day...

  • The Friday Night Test: You come home to a quiet house on a Friday night with no plans and feel a sense of peaceful possibility, not a wave of panic or dread. You genuinely enjoy your own company.

  • The Menu Decision: You look at a restaurant menu and confidently know what you want in under a minute, without needing to check what anyone else is having. The crippling anxiety over small decisions is gone.

  • The Boundary Moment: A family member asks you to do something you don’t have the energy for. You’re able to say, "I can't do that right now," clearly and kindly, without feeling a two-day guilt hangover.

  • The Ex-Text Neutralizer: Your phone buzzes with a text from your ex. Instead of the familiar jolt of anxiety or a racing heart, you feel a sense of calm neutrality. You realize you have a choice in how, or even if, you respond.

Hi, I’m Vanja,

If you've found that talk therapy can name your patterns but can't change your energetic reality, we're on the same page.

My work is different. I combine practical coaching with deep shamanic healing to go beyond just talking and clear the wounds at a soul level. I'm not here to fix you but to give you a map back to the wise, whole self you already are.

Rediscover Your Identity

Uncover who you are outside of your relationships and what makes you feel authentically alive.

Reclaim Your Power

Heal the energetic wounds and patterns that keep you feeling stuck, and learn to trust yourself again.

Build Your New Life

Get clear on a vision for your future and confidently create a life that is joyfully and powerfully your own.

WHAT MY CLIENTS SAY

Your First Step, Your First Seven Days

This simple and free 7-day journaling guide will help you create a small, private space to connect to yourself again.

Each day offers one prompt designed to help you reconnect with the parts of you that may have gotten buried—your own voice, where your energy is going, and what brings you joy.

If that feels like a helpful first step, you can download it here.