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Coming Home to Yourself

You spent years building a "We." Now it's time to find the "I".

A holistic mentorship for woman who disappeared in their relationship to feel visible again and at home in your own skin.

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Does this sound familiar?

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Now, imagine a different reality...

  • You wake up with a feeling of calm and wholeness, feeling confident in who you are and what you want.
  • You trust your own judgment again, making decisions with a quiet confidence and moving forward without looking over your shoulder for permission.
  • You can set a clear boundary without feeling a wave of guilt, knowing you are worthy of protecting your energy.
  • You finally silence the inner critic that sounds suspiciously like everyone who ever put you down, and learn to speak to yourself with kindness and respect.
  • And most importantly: You can freely be, act, speak, and think without that constant, exhausting second thought.
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And this is how it changes everything, day to day...

The Friday Night Test You come home to a quiet house on a Friday night with no plans and feel a sense of peaceful possibility, not a wave of panic or dread. You genuinely enjoy your own company.
The Menu Decision You look at a restaurant menu and confidently know what you want in under a minute, without needing to check what anyone else is having. The crippling anxiety over small decisions is gone.
The Boundary Moment A family member asks you to do something you don't have the energy for. You're able to say, "I can't do that right now," clearly and kindly, without feeling a two-day guilt hangover.
The Ex-Text Neutralizer Your phone buzzes with a text from your ex. Instead of the familiar jolt of anxiety or a racing heart, you feel a sense of calm neutrality. You realize you have a choice in how, or even if, you respond.
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Hi, I'm Vanja,

If you've found that talk therapy can name your patterns but can't change your energetic reality, we're on the same page.

I help women who've lost themselves in long relationships reclaim their identity, confidence and sense of meaning. In my approach I blend ICF-accredited coaching, shamanic energy healing and practical life design to create deep, lasting change.

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Rediscover Your Identity

Uncover who you are outside of your relationships and what makes you feel authentically alive.

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Reclaim Your Power

Heal the energetic wounds and patterns that keep you feeling stuck, and learn to trust yourself again.

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Build Your New Life

Get clear on a vision for your future and confidently create a life that is joyfully and powerfully your own.

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What My Clients Say

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Katrin Ackfeld

I came to Vanja being totally blank, without any vision, just knowing that I urgently needed a shift in my work and in my life in general. With a sabbatical year ahead I felt totally lost and didn't know where to start. Her holistic approach guided me to reconnect with my skills, to feel my passion again and to figure out options I didn't know they existed. She is very caring and tender in her coaching but also persistent without being too pushy and that was an amazing mixture. Thank you, dear Vanja!

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Marta Coric
★★★★★

I went from being so overwhelmed and struggling to be present before I had my session with Vanja (and it was just one healing session) to really seeing such a difference after just a week. I suddenly started feeling so at ease, being present more and more, without having to force myself. My mind cleared out and I could see which tasks were important and I could take faster action without just being paralysed by all the things on my list. I honestly didn't expect this big of a shift from this session. But I am so glad I did it and so grateful for the effects it had on me. Thank you Vanja! I would recommend this to anyone who feels overwhelmed, anxious, lost or stuck. It really makes a difference. Also, Vanja is so nice and cares about you, and is so approachable. It's like you are working with a really close friend.

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Yasmin
★★★★★

I came to Vanja with the intention of reclaiming my voice and the courage to express it in the world through my work. I felt very held by Vanja's loving approach at every step of the process and after our session felt things begin to shift. There was initially a lot of clearing of old emotions and then as if almost creeping in through the back door I became aware of a quiet but solid belief in myself and my ability to share my gifts... I am so deeply grateful to Vanja and her work for giving me back to myself and highly recommend her to anyone who seeks to become more of who they are.

Your Questions Answered

What do you offer?

I offer one-to-one coaching and ongoing mentorship for women recovering from difficult relationships, who want to feel like themselves, heal and expand into best version of themselves they have no experienced before. We do this together in a partnership; combining practical tools, compassionate support and accountability, I'll guide you step by step through entire process of healing and growth.

Who is this for?

My work is for women who feel stuck after a breakup, divorce, or emotionally difficult relationship and want to rebuild confidence, boundaries and self-trust, and simply create a better and happier life for themselves.

How does it work?

We meet once a week for coaching, energy healing, or integration, accountability and learning new practices for that week. Coaching sessions are about 60 minutes long, energy healing can be up to 120 minutes, depending what we do. There are two different lengths of a program to choose from, depending on your needs and commitment. You can check all the details at my Programs page.

How do I start?

Book a free 20-minute discovery call via the Contact page, and let's have a chat. I'm very excited to meet you and see if I can help you.

You can also visit my Free Stuff page and download 7 Days Journaling prompts and work through them, and do Are You Living Your Truth Quiz.

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Your First Step, Your First Seven Days

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This simple and free 7-day journaling guide will help you create a small, private space to connect to yourself again.

Each day offers one prompt designed to help you reconnect with the parts of you that may have gotten buried—your own voice, where your energy is going, and what brings you joy.

If that feels like a helpful first step, you can download it here.

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